Monday Motivator: Create your own Destiny

I have been literally off the grid for what feels like too long. What I am about to write will explain why.

Self preservation seems to run about half way down most adult priority lists. What with putting children, husbands, wives and just about every daily task before our deep rooted needs.
In saying this; all these priorities create a sense of purpose, make for a full life and I will always put certain needs of my loved ones before my own. They have been chosen by us, sub-consciously or consciously.
Now, the question is, ‘Have I preserved what makes me Me?’
Nurtured my passions?
Enriched my mind regularly?
Explored avenues of information which I find myself being drawn to on more than one occasion?

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I have started into a new journey these past few weeks. A journey that is for me first. A series of paths to a better me. A way to apply dormant skills.
It’s not a selfish ‘me first’. It’s a ‘if I’m not preserved and nourished I won’t be in a place to openly hear, see and enjoy my family, friends and….life.’

Creating your own destiny, in my opinion, involves:
~looking deep inside yourself and evaluating when you are at your best and what is truly important to you
~how does what you do effect the ones you love, now and in the future?
~doing your research from many angles so that you have a variety of correct, complete information
~stop, look and listen; especially to friends and family because they truly know you and might have some insight on things that you haven’t seen or have overlooked.

In thinking about my life at this point in time I have realized that I have let too many pieces of who I am go dormant.

When starting this blog I felt I was doing it because I needed something that was just for me. I was also at a point where I wanted to connect with other mothers. Writing is an extension of myself and defines moments with more clarity. I express myself best through writing and also felt that a blog could turn into a great business venture down the road if I created the right service and following.
Once I searched through interesting blogs and had people, few that were mothers, enjoying my posts, it pushed me to evaluate what was good, great and mediocre in my writing.
Then I started to post my pictures. I wrote posts around old and new photos of mine. I noticed a fire in me that I couldn’t ignore.

DESTINY is defined as:
1. something that is to happen or has happened to a particular person or thing; lot or fortune.
2. the predetermined, usually inevitable or irresistible, course of events.
3. the Destinies, the Fates
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Suddenly all of these definitions resonated with me in profound ways. Something pushed me in all the right directions.
Was it Fate or Fortune like they say? I can’t say, but I am going to choose to create my own destiny by listening to my heart and gut instincts.

So, my true journey began with the resurfacing of a passion. Photography.
I have now looked into schooling, workshops and part time job opportunities. I have contacted a few photojournalism professionals and received great advice and direction.

My journey involves getting back into the workforce. This has entailed registering my daughter in preschool, revising my résumé from 15 years ago with a completely different focus and switching my image and mindset to include the creative, professional woman in me, as well as Mommy and Wife.

Just these steps alone have awoken a spirit that seems new but is actually an old friend that I have thought about in my dreams and can’t wait to catch up with; like she was never absent or missed a thing.

It’s important to practice…
Reflection and Self Preservation!
It might feel scary or overwhelming to start from scratch. OR you could think of it as not having to fit yourself perfectly like a puzzle into previous positions that may have changed drastically.
Sometimes starting fresh is easier than having to build on old foundations. Exploring with fresh eyes will likely turn over some rocks you would never have noticed before.

I would love to hear any journeys or realizations you have created!

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Monday Motivator; Go Watch the Birds

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Simple as that!

I am pretty much in my glory right now. My daughter is sitting here as we colour and watch the birds play around in the rain. That makes up one version of a great afternoon for me.

Today I just want to say, do some bird watching. They are beautiful, graceful and quite interesting to watch. I have now had a glimpse into the world of a ‘bird watcher’.

When I have my camera ready it is an even more rewarding experience. Unfortunate that most photos are taken from the wrong side of my window pane.

Monday Motivator; I WISH I might…

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one wish, or hundreds?

These wishes are waiting to be formed into what is most beautiful for the ‘wishee’. Some wishes have many pieces to them. Some float around just wanting to be heard but never carried out. Some wishes are hidden in memoirs and wills. Some wishes will never be heard and others are last wishes.
I was originally planning to post a photo which speaks “wish” to me as part of a Photo Challenge here on WordPress. That obviously did not pan out, but it was a source of inspiration nonetheless.

It’s funny to me how dandelions are a symbolic tradition of making wishes when anyone that you talk to whom suffers allergies would rather wish them away.

I want to challenge people today, to make a wish on behalf of or for someone else.Think outside of the box on how to impact someone’s day, life or thinking process. Then simply, Make a Wish.
Make it and blow it into anothers’ world.

I was originally along the thought process of carrying out a wish or dream for another person. Then I was thinking that might get much more difficult to conduct successfully; or maybe not.
It depends on you!

THINK…Who needs some time to themselves? Maybe take them to your favourite place. Maybe watch their children for an hour.
Get a gift certificate for an experience that a friend has always wanted to try.
Help to brainstorm on that next business venture or book idea.
Be a mediator in a difficult conversation; wishing towards a relationship renewal.
Research, then pass it on.
Pray for someone.

Wishes are endless and don’t have to be expensive or larger than life. Open your heart to someone and give a wish.

My wishes are for wealth, health and success in my life and for my family and friends;…. to be vague and larger than life.
Lately, my front-runner wish, that I can share, is to have the confidence and some type of support service to import my blog to Bluehost.

What is your wish?

 

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Monday Motivator; Unconditionally Family

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Portrait of you, Mum

(An image of you; part of a new photography compilation project of mine, “Portraits”)

I had plans of posting something for my Mum yesterday. I thought about it and decided that some of what I had to say could transpire into a Monday Motivator of family appreciation. A simple gesture to a family member you don’t keep in regular contact with. The value of your family name has a deeper meaning than which signature you sign. It’s a history, a story and a group of people with common traits living to make good of a bloodline.

The saying says that the Mom is the glue that keeps family together. This really is true of my Mum. She keeps everyone informed, stays in touch, plans events and consults her book for every birthday.
If you need it, she will provide. You would give your last dollar or last anything to someone if they truly needed it.
You’ve always worked hard, Mum. I remember you working, exercising, cooking from scratch, cleaning and hardly sitting down. You always try your best.
I haven’t always had you close. When divorce hits a family, everything uproots. I remember not seeing you or my brother for years. I know you feel guilty, but don’t. Life happens. It’s water under a small bridge. I don’t feel that marriages should always stay together for the sake of the children.

Family can be tricky yet some of the best medicine. Many years could pass but, with most families, the ties that bind are endless in forgiveness and unconditional love. Personally, I feel true connection and a type of duty to family; even whom I have never met. My genealogy fascinates me and defines parts of ourselves that can’t be explained otherwise.
I urge people who are the slightest bit curious about their history to do a little research. The internet makes it more manageable and accessible.

Mum, your laugh is loud and full of rawness. Your eyes not only show how deeply and frequently you laugh, but they sparkle. You tell it like it is. Your british based humor is both off the wall and charming all in the same breath. You brush your hair back off your face with your fingers to keep the shape of your style. I love how excited you get when you find a great magazine, knitting pattern or gift. You wear your heart on your sleeve a lot of the time and it makes you more beautiful. You’re known to be the worry-wort. When you tell a story, boy is it ever a story; with nothing left out.
“Dawn, David, Fred, George”; you’ll get the name right eventually.

I see more and more of myself in you as we have become great friends in our mother daughter relationship over the past years; this is a wonderful realization. It has been told to me many a time that you look much younger than you are; hopefully I also inherit that from you.

So, my Mum, I want you to know how deeply I adore and appreciate everything that you are. I wish I could heal any pain or difficulty you ever have had. You have given me all that you can and I am grateful.
It is the hardest thing to swallow; watching your parents get older. It’s hard to see them struggle, get tired. Nevertheless, I will not look away. My parents are a part of me and deserve everything I can give.
I am proud to call them family.
Mum, I love you. All my love, Dawn.

Think about what your family means to you this week. Write a letter of love; or maybe it is time for you to put water under the bridge in a certain relationship. Sure, everyone has annoyances or stories rather forgotten. Be the bigger person for the sake of next generations and living surrounded by blood relatives.
Show the value of the simple traditions within your family. Share.

I hope your family grows or reconnects today. Will it start with you?

Monday Motivator; Friendship

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The power of friends.

To heal, to nourish, to empower, to foster dreams, to become family…
Friends can be a support system like no other. In Greys Anatomy friends are referred to as “my person”.
Well designated.

The lifespan of a friendship is a story of true partnership. A partner in crime. A partner of highs, lows and unspoken understanding. Partners of secret truths.
The kinship of a friend follows you. You could go around the world and back, but once you catch up with a friend you feel freed and content; home.
Anyone can be a friend, but to be a good friend needs a special type of attention, admiration and trust. I believe that teaching a child some key elements of being a good friend will transpire into other aspects of their character and life.
I remember, in elementary school, sending notes back and forth between my girl friends. It was an open dialect to everything; a support system. I recently saw on Pinterest a version of this ‘note passing’ idea; a notebook kept between a mother and daughter, taking turns writing notes to each other. This is beautiful in so many ways. I especially love the bonding and open communication channel aspects. Little boys could do comics if they are not into writing. How wonderful would it be to start one between a grandparent and a child!?

I used to be a better friend. I have been guilty of letting too much time pass before contacting a friend. I have spread myself too thin amongst the people who deserve more; that mean more to me. Ignorance is NOT bliss.
Moving forward I am going to work at not being complacent or neglectful.
Have you been guilty of neglecting a friendship? Getting absorbed in routine; being complacent, inattentive over time?

My friends are my rock when there’s nowhere inside of me to pull strength. A history of the person you’ve become. My husband is my greatest friend; being that laugh, voice of reason or kiss just when needed the most. My Mum has become a friend I don’t know how I’d live without. I’ve recently made a new friend that has been a breath of fresh air within the everyday mommy battle. When I was a child there was an elderly lady who lived in the same building complex. She taught me about pottery and helped me make my own, talked about how she grew up, cooked with me. If your children have similar relationships, try to keep some kind of contact with them; it is a unique relationship.
Friends help shape us. They can be the connection to experiencing living in ways you usually wouldn’t.
This type of support pushed me; pushed me to get back to a piece of myself that had been lost.

Maybe you are long overdue for some catch-up time. Don’t overlook the power of a phone call instead of today’s ways of communicating by texting, tweeting, Facebook accounts and email. Even sending a hand written letter shows that you have spent time on that person, besides being a much more personal memento of yourself. I love these retreats or cruise vacations that you see advertised for which attract groups of friends for long weekend bonding.

Let’s all celebrate our unique relationships with our friends. Today take the time to value a friend. Tell them exactly what they have made better in your life. Show them how wonderful they truly are.
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