Monday Motivator: Create your own Destiny

I have been literally off the grid for what feels like too long. What I am about to write will explain why.

Self preservation seems to run about half way down most adult priority lists. What with putting children, husbands, wives and just about every daily task before our deep rooted needs.
In saying this; all these priorities create a sense of purpose, make for a full life and I will always put certain needs of my loved ones before my own. They have been chosen by us, sub-consciously or consciously.
Now, the question is, ‘Have I preserved what makes me Me?’
Nurtured my passions?
Enriched my mind regularly?
Explored avenues of information which I find myself being drawn to on more than one occasion?

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I have started into a new journey these past few weeks. A journey that is for me first. A series of paths to a better me. A way to apply dormant skills.
It’s not a selfish ‘me first’. It’s a ‘if I’m not preserved and nourished I won’t be in a place to openly hear, see and enjoy my family, friends and….life.’

Creating your own destiny, in my opinion, involves:
~looking deep inside yourself and evaluating when you are at your best and what is truly important to you
~how does what you do effect the ones you love, now and in the future?
~doing your research from many angles so that you have a variety of correct, complete information
~stop, look and listen; especially to friends and family because they truly know you and might have some insight on things that you haven’t seen or have overlooked.

In thinking about my life at this point in time I have realized that I have let too many pieces of who I am go dormant.

When starting this blog I felt I was doing it because I needed something that was just for me. I was also at a point where I wanted to connect with other mothers. Writing is an extension of myself and defines moments with more clarity. I express myself best through writing and also felt that a blog could turn into a great business venture down the road if I created the right service and following.
Once I searched through interesting blogs and had people, few that were mothers, enjoying my posts, it pushed me to evaluate what was good, great and mediocre in my writing.
Then I started to post my pictures. I wrote posts around old and new photos of mine. I noticed a fire in me that I couldn’t ignore.

DESTINY is defined as:
1. something that is to happen or has happened to a particular person or thing; lot or fortune.
2. the predetermined, usually inevitable or irresistible, course of events.
3. the Destinies, the Fates
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Suddenly all of these definitions resonated with me in profound ways. Something pushed me in all the right directions.
Was it Fate or Fortune like they say? I can’t say, but I am going to choose to create my own destiny by listening to my heart and gut instincts.

So, my true journey began with the resurfacing of a passion. Photography.
I have now looked into schooling, workshops and part time job opportunities. I have contacted a few photojournalism professionals and received great advice and direction.

My journey involves getting back into the workforce. This has entailed registering my daughter in preschool, revising my résumé from 15 years ago with a completely different focus and switching my image and mindset to include the creative, professional woman in me, as well as Mommy and Wife.

Just these steps alone have awoken a spirit that seems new but is actually an old friend that I have thought about in my dreams and can’t wait to catch up with; like she was never absent or missed a thing.

It’s important to practice…
Reflection and Self Preservation!
It might feel scary or overwhelming to start from scratch. OR you could think of it as not having to fit yourself perfectly like a puzzle into previous positions that may have changed drastically.
Sometimes starting fresh is easier than having to build on old foundations. Exploring with fresh eyes will likely turn over some rocks you would never have noticed before.

I would love to hear any journeys or realizations you have created!

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Monday Motivation; Be Yourself

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Some 12 years ago I was soaking up the culture and gorgeous architecture of Paris. Up in the clouds of Montmartre I came across these stylin’ characters. I look at the courage and creativity these people have. Are these not the type of people who inspire? Are these not the type of people who walk to the beat of their own drum and usually want everyone to join in?

Being your own person, comfortable in your own skin is so important!

When I was young I never stood out as confident or comfortable with myself. There is always a bully or child that enjoys making fun; every generation has them. ‘Children can be cruel.’ Children can be as honest and as blunt as they come.
It is, however, how you deal and move on in these experiences that have the power to shape what you become. However, sometimes we just need to learn the first steps of loving ourselves and dealing with diversity.
I really love the initiative that Dove has regarding empowering girls. The high percentage of young girls that quit doing things they love because of body image or confidence is such a shame.

I used to work in a Grade 2 classroom helping with reading, activities and building safe relationships through play. I truly felt like I made an impact on certain children’s ability to cope and their level of confidence by the end of the school year.

As I get older, more than ever, I see how crucial good role models, close trusted relationships and open conversation is for children. It’s a source of strength and reassurance that we all need during points throughout life. I am finding lately that friendships I have are helping me along to look at my surroundings, and my mothering, in different ways. Friends offer advice just when it is needed the most.

This blogging community is actually a beautiful way to break away from yourself without the pressures of face to face criticism. This community is supportive and encouraging. There are all walks of life just being themselves and sharing what they love.

There has been times when I have looked back on events that I chose not to participate in because of personal reservations. I know now that I should have gone. If I had felt uncomfortable I could have just left. People regularly miss out on learning new skills, gaining long-lasting relationships or just pure fun.

Today and from now on I urge adults to share positive pieces of reinforcement, compliments, encouragement and advice as well as their time in activities with children; alongside their parents.
Today and from now on I urge you to let yourself be you. Go try things and leave your inner critic at home.

“We are our own worst enemies.”

If you are always worried about what people will think or say, then you never will be free to show them what makes you tick. You might miss out on great jobs and learning things about yourself. With all the billions of individuals in the world there is bound to be handfuls of others that really get you and see the beauty in what you say, offer and the image of what is You.

Don’t limit yourself!

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Monday Motivator; Go Watch the Birds

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Simple as that!

I am pretty much in my glory right now. My daughter is sitting here as we colour and watch the birds play around in the rain. That makes up one version of a great afternoon for me.

Today I just want to say, do some bird watching. They are beautiful, graceful and quite interesting to watch. I have now had a glimpse into the world of a ‘bird watcher’.

When I have my camera ready it is an even more rewarding experience. Unfortunate that most photos are taken from the wrong side of my window pane.

Monday Motivator; I WISH I might…

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one wish, or hundreds?

These wishes are waiting to be formed into what is most beautiful for the ‘wishee’. Some wishes have many pieces to them. Some float around just wanting to be heard but never carried out. Some wishes are hidden in memoirs and wills. Some wishes will never be heard and others are last wishes.
I was originally planning to post a photo which speaks “wish” to me as part of a Photo Challenge here on WordPress. That obviously did not pan out, but it was a source of inspiration nonetheless.

It’s funny to me how dandelions are a symbolic tradition of making wishes when anyone that you talk to whom suffers allergies would rather wish them away.

I want to challenge people today, to make a wish on behalf of or for someone else.Think outside of the box on how to impact someone’s day, life or thinking process. Then simply, Make a Wish.
Make it and blow it into anothers’ world.

I was originally along the thought process of carrying out a wish or dream for another person. Then I was thinking that might get much more difficult to conduct successfully; or maybe not.
It depends on you!

THINK…Who needs some time to themselves? Maybe take them to your favourite place. Maybe watch their children for an hour.
Get a gift certificate for an experience that a friend has always wanted to try.
Help to brainstorm on that next business venture or book idea.
Be a mediator in a difficult conversation; wishing towards a relationship renewal.
Research, then pass it on.
Pray for someone.

Wishes are endless and don’t have to be expensive or larger than life. Open your heart to someone and give a wish.

My wishes are for wealth, health and success in my life and for my family and friends;…. to be vague and larger than life.
Lately, my front-runner wish, that I can share, is to have the confidence and some type of support service to import my blog to Bluehost.

What is your wish?

 

http://suzie81.wordpress.com/2013/05/23/acts-of-kindness/

Monday Motivator; Let’s Party like it’s 1989

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Or 69, 78, 99…
It is officially ‘May 2 4’ weekend in Canada. This is a time that marks the beginning of warm nights, patio catch up and camping with friends and anyone who ends up at your site.

I, on the other hand, have not celebrated this holiday in that way for many years. Now all I can think is “will the fireworks display and it’s cheering onlookers being performed across the street wake up my baby”. Am I uptight?
I feel I have just gotten caught up in schedules and being the responsible mother. I haven’t focused much on being me; all sides of me. It’s not just that, some things feel like more of a hassle; like if there’s excessive travel time or if nothing is guaranteed.
Who out there feels this is going on in their lives?
I say we just let go, within adult reason, and roll with the punches in a more carefree manner.

How often do we give up an opportunity to listen to that part of ourselves that wants a bit of what we had?
How often do you catch yourself holding back?
Why? I’ve said it before; everything in moderation. In each stage of life we change, adapt, grow and hopefully become better versions of ourselves. So, why do many mothers hold back.

‘Back in the day’ I would get a phone call asking to go away for the weekend and have my bag packed then leave all within 20 minutes. ‘Back in the day’ I would put all my house cleaning on hold for days to go check out a concert, have lunch with a friend, spend hours walking with my camera and some music or read a book under a tree in the park.
‘Back in the day’ always seems to refer to a time of no rules, letting loose and a time with more unconventional options to experience. ‘Back in the day’ should reflect 2 weeks ago, not a century! That’s not how it works though is it. Some things should stay back in the day. Those 80’s haircuts and clothes, for example.

I’m going to take this day and run with it. It’s okay if my daughter breaks her routine to experience fireworks. Having wine on a Monday, Wednesday or Sunday afternoon is the ‘r’ in relaxation.

Let’s live now. Not yesterday! Let’s teach our children what true happiness looks like.
I’m easy-going; ‘then talk the talk’. I’ll try anything once; ‘well walk the walk’.
Always wondered about a nightly event; go check it out. Try something out of your comfort zone.

I’d love to hear what you tried!! No matter how simple, it’s all good!

Daily Prompt: Too big to fail

I am the type of person that can answer a question straight, but, I can also elaborate, have questions or have more than one answer. The divergent thinker in me never rests. Ask and you shall receive. My heart rests in many places.

Which leads me to the question of a prompt:
TOO BIG TO FAIL

I would like to buy a house, flip it, rent out my house and move my family to Europe (Spain) for a year. While there I would mentor photographers, work part time in galleries, cafes and anywhere that catches my eye, volunteer and go on weekend adventures around Europe with my family. While in England, I would search library archives in hopes of finding family records and spend quality time with family.
(Yes, I know it’s a mouthful. Hence why I wrote the first paragraph as a lead in)

I haven’t tried this because it is a huge risk and there are too many unknowns. Money, or lack there of. If it was just me it would be a different story. I’m not willing to involve my daughter and husband in such an unpredictable endeavour. It would also take a great deal of organized chaos. I claim to be pretty organized but, honestly, I don’t feel I would be on that grand of a scale.

I guess I’m a grown up now that I realize I can’t let myself ‘fly by the seat of my pants’.

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Monday Motivator; Friendship

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The power of friends.

To heal, to nourish, to empower, to foster dreams, to become family…
Friends can be a support system like no other. In Greys Anatomy friends are referred to as “my person”.
Well designated.

The lifespan of a friendship is a story of true partnership. A partner in crime. A partner of highs, lows and unspoken understanding. Partners of secret truths.
The kinship of a friend follows you. You could go around the world and back, but once you catch up with a friend you feel freed and content; home.
Anyone can be a friend, but to be a good friend needs a special type of attention, admiration and trust. I believe that teaching a child some key elements of being a good friend will transpire into other aspects of their character and life.
I remember, in elementary school, sending notes back and forth between my girl friends. It was an open dialect to everything; a support system. I recently saw on Pinterest a version of this ‘note passing’ idea; a notebook kept between a mother and daughter, taking turns writing notes to each other. This is beautiful in so many ways. I especially love the bonding and open communication channel aspects. Little boys could do comics if they are not into writing. How wonderful would it be to start one between a grandparent and a child!?

I used to be a better friend. I have been guilty of letting too much time pass before contacting a friend. I have spread myself too thin amongst the people who deserve more; that mean more to me. Ignorance is NOT bliss.
Moving forward I am going to work at not being complacent or neglectful.
Have you been guilty of neglecting a friendship? Getting absorbed in routine; being complacent, inattentive over time?

My friends are my rock when there’s nowhere inside of me to pull strength. A history of the person you’ve become. My husband is my greatest friend; being that laugh, voice of reason or kiss just when needed the most. My Mum has become a friend I don’t know how I’d live without. I’ve recently made a new friend that has been a breath of fresh air within the everyday mommy battle. When I was a child there was an elderly lady who lived in the same building complex. She taught me about pottery and helped me make my own, talked about how she grew up, cooked with me. If your children have similar relationships, try to keep some kind of contact with them; it is a unique relationship.
Friends help shape us. They can be the connection to experiencing living in ways you usually wouldn’t.
This type of support pushed me; pushed me to get back to a piece of myself that had been lost.

Maybe you are long overdue for some catch-up time. Don’t overlook the power of a phone call instead of today’s ways of communicating by texting, tweeting, Facebook accounts and email. Even sending a hand written letter shows that you have spent time on that person, besides being a much more personal memento of yourself. I love these retreats or cruise vacations that you see advertised for which attract groups of friends for long weekend bonding.

Let’s all celebrate our unique relationships with our friends. Today take the time to value a friend. Tell them exactly what they have made better in your life. Show them how wonderful they truly are.
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